okay, i've had this exact same problem in the exact same game.
you can download the patch from a third party source. i don't remember where though, i want to say fileplanet. anyways, find it somewhere, and extract the files directly to the game folder. from there, run the patch installation program, and it'll download it all. from there, it'll install. then just start the game, and play against me!
what's your username? i'm IVhorseman there as well. also, panzer elite > all, amirite?